“You want to go on a date?” Whether you heard it or you said it, either way you’re going on a date! You feel tingly, excited and happy but when it sinks in, your feelings steadily turn into uneasiness, anxiety and panic. You ask yourself, “How do I get through my ‘first date’?”
Pre-date. Just keep in mind three things when getting ready. First, dress appropriately. Wear the proper outfit depending on your activity. For example, if it involves a lot of walking, wear clothing that lets you move easily. Second, don’t wear anything that makes you uncomfortable. Feeling uneasy in your clothing makes it harder for you to feel relaxed on your date. So, dress comfortably stylish. Lastly, what you wear greatly reflects your character. Dress to express, not to impress. Think of it like introducing yourself, but through your clothes. Now that you’re set, let’s get to it!
Date-Day. Relax. Remember, they’re probably nervous, too. Try cracking a joke or giving a compliment to ease the tension. Share stories, express your interests and ask questions but also listen. At times, it can be tempting to bring out your phone to remedy an awkward silence, but constantly checking your phone is a no-no. It makes the other person feel like you’re unengaged. Overall, just be yourself. It’s the best gauge to know if someone truly enjoys your company – or if you enjoy theirs as well. So, ease up and have a good time!
Post-date. Going on a date is essentially just getting to know someone, so ask yourself: “Do I want to know more about this person?” If yes, then you might have had a successful one. But, you don’t have to feel the need to label it as love. That’s what the date is for – just knowing if there’s potential in someone. Try asking your friends on their opinion about your date, but try to leave out some details. Since it’s a special moment you share with that person, it’s best to keep it between each other.
A first date can feel like a first crush – exciting, fun and unpredictable. A relationship can develop into a romantic one or simply remain as friendship. What’s great about ‘young love’ is that you’re still young and there are more opportunities for you to mingle and meet new people. Learn more about expanding your social circle with John Robert Powers.
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