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TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS: HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH IT?

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Sleepovers, nights out and endless chats –friends are so much fun!

Friends are always there to hear you out, to cheer you on and to lend a helping hand, but when those chats turn into fights, cheers turn into boos and smiles turn into tears or frowns, maybe it’s time to rethink the relationship.

Is this relationship really all worth it?

When you feel like you can’t be yourself, or it’s always you who’s doing the ‘giving’ or you’re just not happy anymore, these may be signs of a toxic relationship. Whether this relationship is 7 days, 7 months or 7 years long, you need to do something about it:

Diagnose – Assess the relationship.
Look at it from an outsider’s perspective. Step back and try to look at the dynamics as if it’s happening to someone else. Are they treating this person well? Does this person look happy in their company? Does it look like they want to hang out again? If you answered yes, there is something to save. If it’s a no, this might be a toxic relationship.

Accept – See things for what they are.
When you realize you’re in this relationship predicament, the only way you can face it is to do so head on and accept that it’s happening. If this person is treating you in a condescending way, without respect or is just plain awful, you need to acknowledge it! Don’t give excuses for them! “No. It was my fault, anyway.”“Yeah, he’s just joking.” or “Maybe she’s just having a bad day?” If you turn a blind eye, you turn back on ever moving forward.

Act – Make your move.
You don’t have control over others, but you do have control over yourself. If you know that the relationship isn’t fair, do something about it. Try telling this person how you feel; you might just be having a rough patch. Try setting your boundaries. Know and convey when enough is enough. Don’t let them step on you! When all else fails, set a last straw. If they cross the line, it’s your sign to end the relationship.

Manage – Mingle with other people.
It can be difficult to cut ties with someone you’ve called a ‘friend’, but when both of you aren’t growing anymore, then is this really a healthy relationship? It may not seem so right now, but there are other people who can and will appreciate you more. Take it as a challenge to find new and better relationships. Just remember, it’s not the end of the world –just the end of a relationship.

Yes, it can be hard but down the road, you’re doing each other a favor. People will come and go, so learn what you can from every relationship. Find the people who’ll be worth your time, effort and affection, and who will inspire you to grow and become a better person.

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Introspection: Luring Out Your Best Self

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It’s 3am. You find yourself lying on your bed. You ponder about life as you delve into the existential questions – often leading to this one question whose answer even philosophers have yet to agree on.

Who am I?

Your principles, beliefs and core values are what comprise who you are – explaining how you think, speak or act the way you do. Knowing what those are is the first step to bring out the best in you. To answer that, you need to probe into your mind and ask yourself these three questions:

What do you love doing – even when youre tired or rushed?

Practicing on weeknights for your band’s gig, staying up late to write a script for a short film, or spending weekends at the animal shelter? They’re what you always find time for–in fact, you even make time for them–the things you’re passionate about. These are the things you do not because you have to but because you want to.

What do you admire most about people?

Do you like how your friend is hard-working yet humble, do you idolize a celebrity for being so down to earth or do you appreciate the kindness of a stranger who helped you out? The things you like about other people–how they are or what they do–are the attributes you want for yourself. How you perceive other people is like looking at a mirror of yourself –reflecting the aspects you want to embody as well.

What do you consider your greatest achievement?

From the top of your head, what are the things you’ve achieved that you’re most proud of? Is it a medal you won in school, a charity event your NGO set up, or a long-term friendship you still cherish? Whether it’s related to your career, dreams, friends or family, it says a lot about the important things in your life. These are the things you find value in or what you consider as meaningful.

Your passions, aspirations and inspirations – they are the pillars of who you are. They are also the key to unlocking who you can be!

Keep at what you love doing and get better each day. Make your aspirations a reality and become a better person. Take what’s important to you as inspiration and strive to do better. Let your best self shine through!

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INDIVIDUALITY: HOW THE UNICORN WON THE RACE

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You have something you want to achieve—making it to a managerial position, getting the scholarship to your dream school, or having the green light to your new business venture. In a world with hundreds of thousands of people wanting that same opportunity, you have some competition. How do you stand out?

Be a unicorn – unique and special.

In a world where people crave to belong, be the person who is nothing but him/herself.

A unicorn trots, canters and gallops – it moves on its own pace.

If you feel like you need to take your time, by all means go at it step-by-step. If you feel like you perform best in short bursts of productivity, then why not take a break once in a while? Discover your way of doing things – a process that works best for you and brings out the best in what you do.

A unicorn isn’t bound by a jockey on its back – free to roam and create its own path.

You have your own aspirations, goals and dreams. Don’t let other people dictate what you should and shouldn’t do – it’s your life.It’s fine to take advice from the people you trust but at the end of the day, the decisions you make will be what’s best for you. Seek out new pastures, dare to take the road less traveled and lead your own journey.

A unicorn’s horn is what makes it different – what makes it unique.

Take pride in what makes you different from everyone else – it’s what makes you interesting. Own your individual traits – your hyperactive nature, your dyed ash-gray hair or your all-black ensemble. Embrace what makes you unique so you can stride with confidence. In a world where everyone’s a stallion, be the unicorn.

The next time you’re typing in the Google search box—tips for selling an idea, product or resume—forget the ones that tell you to simply dress appropriately, speak up or act confident. Just imagine the thousands of people aiming to be just that. When you follow the mold of ‘you’re exactly what we’re looking for’, you lose your chance at ‘whatever it is, we want you’.

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#GOALS: MAKING YOUR IDEAL SELF A REALITY

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You can see it on social media accompanied with photos, from your idea of a perfect relationship, the dream travel destination, to the ideal life known as #Goals. However, people use it in way that it’s something unachievable – something we can only desire and watch from a distance. Who says you can’t achieve your life goals? Ask yourself these three questions and begin your journey towards your ideal self.

WHAT DO YOU WANT?
Before anything else, you need to have a clear idea of what it is you want – what you would like to be known for or what you want to achieve. Ask yourself what you want – be it a dream, goal or wish. “I hope I can be a more confident person, who isn’t too shy to make new friends! #Goals”. Create this image in your head – a stronger, wiser and better version of yourself –the Me Version 2.0!

WHO ARE YOU NOW?
Look at yourself in the mirror and observe yourself from the outsiders’ eyes. What do you see? Evaluate yourself in terms of your personality. According to your goal, is it close to the person you want to be or is it far from it? Be honest with yourself. This is where you will assess what area of yourself you need to improve. When you meet new people, do you get nervous or uncomfortable? When you’re conversing with someone, do you fidget and don’t know what to do with your hands? Why do think you act like that? Is it because you had an embarrassing incident in public? Analyze and accept this as who you are now but also promise that you will work to be better.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?
Coming from knowing what you want and who you are, ask yourself what you can do and make your version 2.0 a reality! What are the changes that you need to do, the things that you need to improve on? Go back to your core values, to lead you where you want to be – what’s important is your real self is aligned with your goals and you must be willing to work on who you are now. If you want to make friends but are unsure how – don’t wait for others to approach you. Maybe, they’re also waiting for someone to approach them, just like you! So, maybe this time you can make the first move. How can I keep myself from fidgeting out of nerves when I talk? Keep your hands occupied with a glass, or a phone (but don’t glance at it too much). Better yet, use your hands to gesture while you talk. Hand gestures make you appear charming, help you relax and let you express yourself better.

The first step to any successful venture is setting your goal. Believe in what you can become, make it happen and allow it to come across to the people you meet. Making friends takes effort and time, but all is worth it in the end. Learn how you can face your social butterflies with JRP.

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More Than Just a Pretty Face

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More Than Just a Pretty Face

by Joan Therese Dela Cruz

As teenagers, looking good is already part of our concerns. We become extra anxious on how we look and act and how it affects our peers. But is looking good all that we should care about?

Looks can be deceiving. Even in the market, beautiful packaging easily draws us. But smart consumers know what’s good for them, and that is why we look into the contents, the ingredients, and the benefits.

All of us are beautiful, but let us add substance into that beautiful packaging. People would love to know more about you when they talk to you, but getting-to-know talks can be uncomfortable and nerve-wracking for some.

The English language plays a big role in making a lasting good impression. It displays prestige and competitiveness. This may be the reason for some being nervous and uncomfortable in making a good first impression in first talks.

Being fluent in English is already a necessity in this competitive world. If one knows how to speak well, he/she can express himself/herself more. He/She can be remembered as more than just a pretty face, and that is because he/she knows how to speak up and introduce himself/herself to his/her peers with confidence.

Let us add substance into that beautiful packaging. Everyone can achieve English fluency. Practice and improve. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes and apologize. Learn something new.

Be proud of yourself. No matter how cliché this line is, it always works: be yourself. Be real and be proud of it. Let your confidence and personality shine through and be the sunshine beneficial to others. Speak up and leave an impact with the people you are with and your beauty will be more visible, truly beautiful.

Be more than just a pretty face; let us add substance into that beautiful packaging. Speak up, be confident, and be truly beautiful.