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SOCIALIZING 101

We get it – sometimes, socializing can be a terrifying thing, particularly when you’re not the most extroverted person. However, socializing is a necessary activity we all must participate in and how well you socialize with the people around you can affect your relationships with them.

So, when you’re feeling awkward or unsure as to how to socialize with the people around you, here are a few simple tips:

  1. Smile – Don’t worry, it’s not just you! Everyone feels a little intimidated when meeting new people, and a good way to lessen that tension is to smile. A smile is a signal to others that you’re friendly enough to start a conversation with, or that you’re nice enough to get to know. A smile could be your icebreaker, so keep smiling.
  2. Listen – Are you still at a loss with what to say? That’s perfectly fine, just as long as you listen to everyone else who do has something to say. Listening to people means that you’re interested in what they have to say, and that you’re making an effort to get to know them. If you’re listening well enough, they might just mention a topic that you’re interested in, allowing you to join in the conversation.
  3. Initiate conversation– This may seem like a scary thing at first, but initiating conversation doesn’t have to be that hard. It’s precisely that fear that stops people from initiating conversation. So, as long as you’re brave enough to be the first one to do so, things should be fine. At first, it may be best to keep to topics you’re positive people are interested in, and the flow of conversation should go on smoothly and easily.
  4. Don’t keep staring at your phone–While it may seem like the most natural thing to do when stuck in an awkward situation, staring at your phone may just do more harm than good. You may as well have a DO NOT DISTURB sign on your person. Unless it’s for an important call or message, put the phone away and focus on the people around you. You can always browse social media when you’re alone.

While these tips may be helpful in certain situations, it’s important to note that different things work for different people. What’s necessary is for you to be comfortable whenever you’re socializing, and just be yourself.

So find your groove and get to socializing—learn the Art of Social Success with JRP.

BEING A FRIEND 101

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Someone of note once said, “We are friends, we share life.” Truer words have not been said. We share the good times – out of town trips, spontaneous gimmicks, or even just lazing around the house. But life is also about the bad times. When someone has a school problem, a work problem, a family problem, or worse a heart problem, we share these things too. Unfortunately, some people can be clueless to what being a friend entails. Oftentimes, the wisest people find themselves dumbfounded on what to do when a friend is going through something. Don’t fret! You’re already their friend, so you’re a source of comfort in their eyes. Here are a couple of things to note when a friend is in need:

SOMETIMES, IT’S BEST TO LET THEM DO THE TALKING.

It’s true. In some cases, friends just need your ear. They don’t need advice. They don’t need to learn about how you handled a similar situation before. They don’t need you to assess a situation from an outsider’s point-of-view. Sometimes, all they want is for someone to lovingly listen to their pain and that is enough. When they are able to vent, explode, and break down in front of you, you know you’re helping them already. So just let them talk. Remember, you are there to listen.

SOMETIMES, YOU DON’T NEED TO TALK AT ALL.

In some cases, however, the friend doesn’t even want to talk about what happened, so go with it. Do what you normally do. Go to the gym together, watch movies together, shop together, go on a food trip together, drink together, play sports together. By being with them, you are already being a friend. While most people want to talk about what happened, some just don’t and as a friend, you should respect that. Just hang out with them and they would appreciate you for it.

SOMETIMES, ALL THEY NEED IS SPACE.

Still in some cases, the friend wants to be alone and that should be okay with you. Some people want to be in recluse while they get over whatever happened without pressure from the real world, without timelines set by society. They will be okay when they’re okay. This can be hard for a concerned friend like you but biting your lip will be of service to the both of you.

There are many ways to comfort and console a friend who’s down and forlorn. If your friend is shaky, you have to be stable. In order to do that, you have to be in control of your life, and that can be achieved by having a positive outlook on life, a formidable character, and a charming personality. Fortunately, these things can be learned from The Art of Social Success at John Robert Powers.

So, be the best friend you can be. Learn the Art of Social Success from JRP.

HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGA STARS

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We’ve all been there. We’ve all been in situations where a friend we really like just acts in the way we really hate. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does it just consumes us with irritation and we become exhausted with our patience. The more understanding of us would sit through the event albeit begrudgingly. But the less compromising of us would either find an excuse to have an out from it, or just blatantly walk out.

Yes, we are talking about our friends who are Nega Stars. They are good people for the most part, but they are meticulous in finding the downsides to any situation. To them, the littlest of dilemmas sound like the end of the world. We doubt if the sun even shines on their skies in the morning.

Because they are our friends, and hard it may beto admit, we would rather put up with their rants and tirades than lose their presence in our lives. We must find a way to tolerate their ways and influence a change in their behavior. Here are two possible ways to achieve this.

ONE: OUTNUMBER THEM

A good trick is to make sure that when you are going out with one of your nega friends, make sure the more optimistic people outnumber the pessimistic ones. If there is one negafriend, be sure you’re at least three. If there are two, then have five. Why? Because it is important to out-voice the negativity in conversations. Note that while you might not be able to change their perspective in life, you sure can keep them pacified just by talking about happy memories that make you literally laugh out loud. Every time they try to put a wet blanket on the topic, you and your friends can just maneuver the conversation to something light and laughable and that should keep the get-together fun and cheerful.

TWO: STAY AWAY FROM THEM

Before you say anything, we are not implying that you terminate their friendship completely. Just stay away and meet them from time to time. Why? Because while positivity is infectious, negativity is even more so. It is energy-consuming to be in their presence and before you know it, you are dry and depleted from all their comments and criticisms on the most pedestrian concerns. Sometimes, because of the constant exposure to this apocalyptic point of view, you end up becoming a negastar yourself, and that is the last thing that you want. So, veer away from these friends of yours and surround yourself with positive and happy people. You can still see your nega friends occasionally, but they should not be the friends that you should be hanging out with every single day of the week.

To counter the nega star, you have to have a personality and character that exude positivity and good humor. You must be the joy that everyone wants to be with and fortunately, that can be learned at John Robert Powers. Improve your attitude and develop your personality.

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