Your boss: the forbidden fruit in the Eden that is your office. We get it! It’s hard to resist that charm, that intelligence and that confidence, but dating the boss probably isn’t going to end up in a fairy-tale ending like Laida and Sir Miggy did. So, if you’re dating your boss or your officemate seems like they’re in a relationship with their boss, mull over these points:
1. The choice is yours.
The very first thing you need to do is take a step back and check if everything is consensual — that no one is being forced to do anything they don’t want to do and that the choice to be in this relationship was freely made. If everything is good, we can move on to the next item.
2. Check the policy.
A lot of companies have policies in place addressing junior-senior relationships because they believe that these types of relationships can compromise business’ interests. So, make sure to check if your company has these policies and what the implications are if they do exist.
3. Draw the line.
Probably the most important tip in this list — do NOT mix personal life and professional life. Dating the boss, especially when s/he isn’t single, doesn’t give an excuse to use the relationship as an advantage in the workplace. Remember, you’re being paid to work and not to have public displays of affection in the office.
4. Expect the gossip.
Despite any and all attempts to keep the relationship hush hush or in the down low, office gossip spreads like wildfire. So, expect the outrageous rumors and even some hurtful comments. For a while, the people involved will most likely be known more for the relationship than for the work that they do.
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