We’ve all been there. We’ve all been in situations where a friend we really like just acts in the way we really hate. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does it just consumes us with irritation and we become exhausted with our patience. The more understanding of us would sit through the event albeit begrudgingly. But the less compromising of us would either find an excuse to have an out from it, or just blatantly walk out.
Yes, we are talking about our friends who are Nega Stars. They are good people for the most part, but they are meticulous in finding the downsides to any situation. To them, the littlest of dilemmas sound like the end of the world. We doubt if the sun even shines on their skies in the morning.
Because they are our friends, and hard it may beto admit, we would rather put up with their rants and tirades than lose their presence in our lives. We must find a way to tolerate their ways and influence a change in their behavior. Here are two possible ways to achieve this.
ONE: OUTNUMBER THEM
A good trick is to make sure that when you are going out with one of your nega friends, make sure the more optimistic people outnumber the pessimistic ones. If there is one negafriend, be sure you’re at least three. If there are two, then have five. Why? Because it is important to out-voice the negativity in conversations. Note that while you might not be able to change their perspective in life, you sure can keep them pacified just by talking about happy memories that make you literally laugh out loud. Every time they try to put a wet blanket on the topic, you and your friends can just maneuver the conversation to something light and laughable and that should keep the get-together fun and cheerful.
TWO: STAY AWAY FROM THEM
Before you say anything, we are not implying that you terminate their friendship completely. Just stay away and meet them from time to time. Why? Because while positivity is infectious, negativity is even more so. It is energy-consuming to be in their presence and before you know it, you are dry and depleted from all their comments and criticisms on the most pedestrian concerns. Sometimes, because of the constant exposure to this apocalyptic point of view, you end up becoming a negastar yourself, and that is the last thing that you want. So, veer away from these friends of yours and surround yourself with positive and happy people. You can still see your nega friends occasionally, but they should not be the friends that you should be hanging out with every single day of the week.
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