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S/he’s Actually into You

Let’s set things straight: both guys and girls are complicated when it comes to relationships. Don’t worry! You’re not alone in trying to decipher the signals that crushie is giving you, but if you want to know if crushie is really into you? Read up!

So you’ve been talking to this guy/girl for about a month now and things seem to be going well. You’ve already imagined how your first date is going to turn out, what you’re going to wear – the whole shebang. And then, ‘lo and behold, they post a photo with their significant other on their social media.

That’s okay! We’ve all been there before but we’ve got to admit that it’s often difficult to tell if a person really likes you. Here are guaranteed signs that you can easily pick up on to tell if s/he’s actually into you.

The Eyes
Is s/he constantly making eye contact with you? That’s good! When s/he hold your gaze for a few seconds, it pretty much guarantees that there’s at least an interest there.

The Touch
Is his/her hand always on your shoulder? Does s/he lightly nudge you in the arm? Does s/he randomly give you hugs? Bes, I think we can safely say that they’re into you. (So please, touch them back so they know that you’re interested too!)

The Friends
If you’re out with a group of their friends, make sure to observe them because as any good group of friends would do, they’ll make sure to tease their buddy if s/he’s hanging out with the person s/he is interested in!

Keep an eye out for the signs, people!
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It’s Time to Get Serious with You

Are you breaking up? Or are you taking things to the next level? Sometimes, words can be tricky and you end up going out of your mind trying to figure out what your significant other means. Worry not, for we’re here to help decipher them.

So you’re at a fancy restaurant, and you’ve had a pretty great dinner with your significant other; S/he orders some dessert and offers to pay the bill. While waiting, s/he takes your hand, looks you dead in the eye and say, “It’s time to get serious. Let’s talk.” Do you: (a) freak out? (b) square your shoulders and prepare for the worst? or (c) flee the room, never to be seen again?

In this scenario, your significant other is either going to break up with you, or propose to take your relationship to the next level (whether that’s moving in, getting married, or adopting a pet together). Clearly, it’s hard to understand given the wording used, but if you’ve been keen in your relationship, you’ll be able to tell if s/he’s dumping you, or not.

Break-up: They’ve been distant.
It’s a slow, but sure sign that your significant other is about to break up with you. You may not notice it, but there’s a lot less texting, and IM-ing going on, and if the dinner conversation has been awkward and forced, then brace yourself.

Next level: They’re getting sentimental.
If they’re spending a good amount of time flipping through photos of the two of you, or constantly reminiscing about the fond memories you’ve shared over the past years, then a proposal of some sort is bound to happen soon.
Break up: They’re always on their phones.
Now, this may not mean that they’re cheating on you, per se, but their interest is definitely not with you. If they prefer to be constantly on their phones rather than conversing with you, something is really wrong.

Next level: They’ve been asking about your family.
Are they making plans that involve your family? Or they’ve been asking what your parents or siblings have been up to? If they are, then don’t worry, things are looking good! Your S.O. feels comfortable enough with your family to talk to you about them.

Whether it’s a good or bad kind of “serious” s/he wants to get with you, make sure you keep a level head. #JRPArtOfThePitch

Welcoming Rejection

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Countless of times we’ve heard that when a window closes, doors will open. Cliché as it might be, there’s truth to this adage. In reality, opportunities are bound to come your way if you are receptive enough and gregarious enough. The trick is to know which ones to entertain, and which ones to turn down but what would you do if an opportunity you truly desire turns its back on you? Would you break and fall, or would you simply move on to the next without batting an eyelash? If you would do the latter, excellent; but most of us would fall under the former.

Humans, by nature, are afraid of rejection so we have to make an effort to be able to accept it with grace. How, exactly? Well, here are some things to keep in mind when you hear the following phrases, may it be in your career or in your relationships.

“IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S ME.”

This line is an overused example only because it’s extremely overused in real life. It might be a convenient excuse to end a relationship, but most of the time, there’s an unspeakable truth to it.

Relationship is all about finding a match, a perfect fit but you are a person – dynamic and ever changing. Naturally, to find someone that will accept you for all your quirks and idiosyncrasies is not an easy task. So, don’t be too hard on yourself if a relationship doesn’t go as planned. You might like the other person, but they might be looking for someone else. Trying to force-fit yourself in a relationship that is one-way is just a losing battle. You might mope, you might spend weeks, months, or years being forlorn, but at the end of the day, lift your chin with hope that one day, the one that’s for you will come along.

“YOU ARE NOT WHAT WE’RE LOOKING FOR.”

When you hear this from a company, know that it’s not the end of the world. Opportunities come and go and there are plenty of opportunities out there. A single window that closes does not mean that all doors will remain closed. Knowing this, the last feeling that you should have when you have just been rejected is doomed. You have to trust that there will be others and there will be others. So, take it in stride and accept it with grace and confidence that even though this might not be for you, there are a multitude of others that are.

Pain is the onset of growth, and rejection is one of the many sources of our pain but it helps us learn. It helps us grow stronger. So, start viewing rejection not as the end of something great but the start of something new and keep in mind, you will not be rejected all the time. Just keep trying, keep living, knowing that someday, you will finally be able to spread your wings and soar to the skies.

Learning how to deal with rejection will improve our personality and character. We can learn this and more at John Robert Powers. Improve your attitude. Develop your personality.

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TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS: HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH IT?

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Sleepovers, nights out and endless chats –friends are so much fun!

Friends are always there to hear you out, to cheer you on and to lend a helping hand, but when those chats turn into fights, cheers turn into boos and smiles turn into tears or frowns, maybe it’s time to rethink the relationship.

Is this relationship really all worth it?

When you feel like you can’t be yourself, or it’s always you who’s doing the ‘giving’ or you’re just not happy anymore, these may be signs of a toxic relationship. Whether this relationship is 7 days, 7 months or 7 years long, you need to do something about it:

Diagnose – Assess the relationship.
Look at it from an outsider’s perspective. Step back and try to look at the dynamics as if it’s happening to someone else. Are they treating this person well? Does this person look happy in their company? Does it look like they want to hang out again? If you answered yes, there is something to save. If it’s a no, this might be a toxic relationship.

Accept – See things for what they are.
When you realize you’re in this relationship predicament, the only way you can face it is to do so head on and accept that it’s happening. If this person is treating you in a condescending way, without respect or is just plain awful, you need to acknowledge it! Don’t give excuses for them! “No. It was my fault, anyway.”“Yeah, he’s just joking.” or “Maybe she’s just having a bad day?” If you turn a blind eye, you turn back on ever moving forward.

Act – Make your move.
You don’t have control over others, but you do have control over yourself. If you know that the relationship isn’t fair, do something about it. Try telling this person how you feel; you might just be having a rough patch. Try setting your boundaries. Know and convey when enough is enough. Don’t let them step on you! When all else fails, set a last straw. If they cross the line, it’s your sign to end the relationship.

Manage – Mingle with other people.
It can be difficult to cut ties with someone you’ve called a ‘friend’, but when both of you aren’t growing anymore, then is this really a healthy relationship? It may not seem so right now, but there are other people who can and will appreciate you more. Take it as a challenge to find new and better relationships. Just remember, it’s not the end of the world –just the end of a relationship.

Yes, it can be hard but down the road, you’re doing each other a favor. People will come and go, so learn what you can from every relationship. Find the people who’ll be worth your time, effort and affection, and who will inspire you to grow and become a better person.

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Strangers, Friends, and Lovers: Start the Connection

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Relationships don’t just happen, they start somewhere — a simple chat, a joke shared, a question, a helping hand. It always begins with a willingness to open up to others. It’s been said that strangers are friends you haven’t met yet, and it’s true for finding a partner as well. So whether you want to make friends or start a love relationship, allow yourself to interact and engage with new people. So where do you start?

Learn who you are. Before meeting the right person, you first need to be the right person for yourself. You have to be complete before you share yourself with someone else. Try fostering your interests. Read books with themes that mean something to you. Attend classes that draw out your passions and put yourself in situations that allow you todiscover more about you. Before getting to know someone else, you have to know yourself first.

Work your own style. How you dress strongly reflects your character. It’s the first thing people see that makes a strong impression! So rock that plaid polo, work that wing-tip eyeliner or slay with those superstars but keep in mind that you’re dressing for yourself, not to impress someone else. No matter what you wear, make sure that it’s your inner self that always shines through.
Start the conversation. Every conversation starts with a hello. You can catch his attention with how you look, but you can make him stay for how you think. So, don’t be afraid to share your thoughts and express your interests. It’s these conversations that let him know more about you and in turn – let you know more about him.

Mind your mannerisms. Your body language says more than the words you say. Smile more. It will make you look more friendly and approachable. Keep eye contact. It will make the other person feel you’re engaged. If anxious around new people, relax and imagine this person as an old friend.

Always be true to yourself. Let your true colors shine the brightest. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not because a relationship built on anything but the truth is bound to crumble.

Now, get yourself out there! Meeting new people isn’t always easy but it’s the first step to any lasting relationship. Whether you score a date or gain a new friend, there’s always chance that’s waiting for you to take it. So just be yourself, enjoy the company and have fun! Learn more about unleashing your best self.

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