My first year in college is almost over, and I feel stuck. I’m hopeful and excited for the future. I feel like college is the last chance to prepare myself for adulthood and yet I think I’m the only one who feels this. My high school barkada are the same, still talking about the same things. Although I love them, I’m more interested in exploring new experiences than reliving high school. How do I move forward?
First of all, you’re not the only one who feels that way. What you’re feeling now is normal for your age. You’re faced with this big world – wanting to try new things, yet hesitant to actually try them. So, “How do I move forward?” Well, to answer that simply: It’s when you act on opportunities for new experiences.
Let’s say you’re surfing online – retweeting a funny photo, scrolling through your Facebook feed, or coming across a YouTube video. What you click, says a lot about what you’re interested in. So, let’s start with that! Remember that post you liked about a music festival next Saturday? Why not try attending it? When you go to events you’re interested in, with people of the same interests and are bound to be there. It’s easier to talk to someone when you have a common ground. So, don’t feel pressured to find things to talk about. Why not try asking someone about his/her opinion of the band that just played? Whatever response you get – work with it! You either end up with a new friend or a momentary acquaintance but at the end of the day, ask yourself: “Was that fun for me?” If you felt happy, then mark your calendar for the next one but if you felt uncomfortable, then disliking it is totally fine! There is no right or wrong answer – the same thing goes for your process. Just look for what you find interesting! Little by little, you start understanding more about yourself that will help you move forward.
‘Feeling stuck’ is simply what it is – a feeling, because you have the power to change that. You may be on the right path but if you aren’t moving forward then you’re still going nowhere.It may feel scary to explore the unknown on your own but exciting things are surely waiting on the other side. So, let things run its course. Meet new people; experience new things and discover a new and better version of yourself. Now, go on out there!
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